Dear Diary: Our Little Time Capsule

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When Yui was still a baby, I had a small notebook that I kept as a “Yui journal” where I write short letters to her. I figured it will be fun for her to read the journal when she grows up. And surely, she did! Few years back, when I found that first notebook while cleaning up, I gave it to her and she loved reading the letters. She even made them her bedtime stories and reads the letters before going to sleep.

Here’s the first entry that I had when she was just five months old:

First letter for baby Yui

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Motivation Week

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Two weeks ago, I had an extremely toxic week at work ending it with an unplanned weekend deployment. I wasn’t really looking forward to the coming week but then as I was cleaning up on Sunday night and preparing for the work week, I saw that Yui has written a quote on her little whiteboard that says:

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2016: Of Travels, Friendships, Family, and Spreading Happiness

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“Life is meant for Good Friends and Great Adventures”

As we bid goodbye to 2016, I look back at how the past year has brought me to awesome places and taught me life lessons along the way as I travel with friends and family. Lessons that honed me as a person, a friend, a sister, a cousin, a daughter, a mother, and so much more. Lessons that not only helped me but helped those dear to me as well.

January: Cebu

My first roadtrip of the year is to the South of Cebu as I joined in the birthday celebration of a dear friend. It was with a group of friends from my previous team in Cebu and this journey reminded me that it doesn’t mean that friendships end when we stop spending (working) time with each other. It was also the time when some of my new team mates joined the older group and a good opportunity to build new friendships as well.

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Dalaguete road trip with Sasuke; Osmeña Peak sunset

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Weekly Photo Challenge: My 2012 in Pictures

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I’m not really the type to write year-end posts on “the year that was” since I can’t find the words to sum up everything that happened and all the rollercoaster emotions I’ve been through in a year. I’ve started blog posts for several year-ends and then quit before I finish a paragraph. It’s just overwhelming.

I guess now that the weekly photo challenge is about my 2012 in pictures, I can finally have that year-end post that has eluded me for so long. This year has been one of the most challenging and emotional one for me and my family. But like they say, what does not kill me makes me stronger. So without further ado, here’s a sneak peek of My 2012.

 

It may not be the best but it sure is still filled with memories and lessons learned. Now that 2013 is here, cheers to more challenges and fun memories! Happy New Year everybody!  🙂

On Parenting and Humility

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As parents, it is soooo easy for us to gush over our children. I, myself, am guilty of this. When Yui was born, it was all about how cute this newborn was. And now that she’s growing up, we’re just at awe at how fast she is developing. This blog and even my facebook account can attest to how proud I am of my little girl.

It is no wonder then that she always hear how cute she looks or how smart she is – whenever something awesome like this happens:

Yui's seatwork

Yui’s seatwork

Now that Yui is 3 years old, she gets to understand things more and communicates her feelings articulately. Whoever said that parenting is a walk in the park is surely mistaken. In the example above, Yui was able to complete this seatwork by herself. She wrote her name without help, traced the words and drew those faces. Imagine my feeling when I saw this – it was such a proud moment! So the words “smart”, “cute” and “pretty” are often heard to describe the little girl. It wasn’t long therefore that she got to associate these words with her too.

One night, we were talking outside and she asked what those lines in the posts are. I told her those are electric lines. So she mentioned that maybe those lines power our houses. And I said yes. Then the conversation went on like this:

Yui: “I know. Mommy, I’m smart right?”

Mommy: “Yes, baby. But you should not say that you are smart. You have to just wait for other people to say that. Not you.”

Yui: “But how will they know? If I don’t tell them?”

Mommy: *stumped* (oo nga naman) After a long pause, “Yes, but they will know. Even if you won’t tell them”

So that’s where my dilemma comes in. How do I teach my daughter humility? I’m not even sure if what I said was right. I’m not sure if that’s how you start to introduce the notion of humility to a child. I started to actively research on the subject and got some tips from other mommies online. Some of the most note-worthy “tips” that I read are:

1. Model the behavior. Well, we believe this is true not just on teaching humility but also other character building stuff that we want our child to learn like respect. If she sees us doing it, she will follow. Old school rule. But which sometimes I’m guilty of forgetting. This is something that I should consciously strive to do day in and day out. Who knows, I will not only build my daughter’s character but improve mine as well.

2. Build their skills. However ironic this may sound, they say to be able to teach a child to be humble, she should have something to be humble about. So building our children’s skills is important. She should be able to have self-acceptance and self-confidence.

3. Coach them how to respond. The basic “Please”, “Thank You” and “Sorry”. These are important and very much needed in this generation. We don’t want respect to be phased out, right?

Now this may take a long time to do. It will require us, as parents, to be consistent in doing this. But I know at least we’ve started something. A few days ago, some weeks after the electric lines incident, I was asking her to drink her milk and went:

Mommy: “You should drink your milk, Yui. Just like achi Bea. So you’ll grow strong and smart like her”

Yui: “Okay, mommy. But you said I should not say that”

Well, at least what I told her a few nights back stuck with her. With a child like this, we should really watch what we say so our words will not backfire on us. 😛 One thing’s for sure, this humility stuff is not something that we just put on blackboard and teach line by line to our kids.

Writing on board

It will take time. Patience. And for sure, several teaspoons of sense of humor too! 🙂